3 reasons why saying "fuck this" is great self-care

Laqwanda Roberts-buckley wellness consultant 

​Originally Written 2019
Sometimes we need to be honest with ourselves. We don’t always have the energy that we desire to have. I found myself over the past few months unwilling to write and pay attention to my blog.

So many things were going on and I felt that I needed to just let everything go. So that is what I did. I let everything go, at least for a little while. This time away go me to thinking. What if I really needed to not care about things for a while because not giving a f*ck is actually a form of self-care.

Now don’t get me wrong here, there are times when we must care about things. Sometimes we need to free ourselves of the load of the world and its issues by simply letting go and doing something else. If you are considering taking a not giving a f*ck break, here are 3 reasons to help you make that decision.

You Deserve a Break.  Look, you have been putting time into things that needed your attention every single day. You have busted your butt doing everything that has been asked of you. Now you are tired, frustrated, and maybe angry. It’s time to stop, look in the mirror and say I don’t give a f*ck today. You deserve a day that is about you and no one else. Don’t allow yourself to talk yourself out of it. Just go ahead and not care for this day.
 
Saying Just F*ck It is Freeing. Have you ever experienced pressure build up inside that you just wanted out. If you haven’t, then consider yourself lucky. When these moments arise, think of them as an opportunity to take command of the emotional ship in your life. Again find that mirror, step outside, or sit in the car and say “F*ck This”.

Take a deep breath and say “F*ck This” again. Do you feel better? When I do this I start to put some actions behind my words. I begin to take things off the to do list until I feel lighter on the  inside. There is a freeing feeling that comes over me that makes me realize like I  can do this tomorrow just not today.
 
Can It Be Done Tomorrow? Sometimes we hold on to tasks because we forget that sh*t rally can be done tomorrow. Again this is where not giving a f*ck can help you get over this hurdle. I have learned to take things slowly day by day and that means what gets done today will get done today and what won’t, won’t. And I am okay with that. I honestly believe that you can be okay with it as well.

Not giving a f*ck isn’t for everyone. However, for those of us who can take a moment to say “F*ck It”, may realize just how powerful moving away from things can be. I know that it may take some sacrifices. I almost lost my blog here. But for me it was needed to allow the outside noise of my life to die down. So today if you need to just say “F*ck This” and relax for the rest of the day then do just that.

laqwanda roberts-buckley

​With over 15 years of wellness experience, Laqwanda Roberts-Buckley, LMSW is the Founder of Healing Black Women which serves as a safe space designed to encourage and promote all forms of wellness/healing for black women. She also serves as the Chief Editor of HealingBlackWomen.com. She is a Certified Life Coach and Reiki II Practitioner. She is a Wellness Consultant and the former Director of Outreach for the National Office of Mental Health America. Laqwanda serves on the Board of Directors for RPSV, Inc and is a former Board Member for NAMI Northern VA.  As an established/nationally recognized motivational speaker, she has spoken or been seen on various platforms/panels with entities such as Eventbrite, New York Times, PBS, PsychCentral, Human Rights Campaign (HRC), Austin Black Pride, Environmental Protection Agency, Council on Social Work Minority Fellowship Program, Kaiser Permanente, Before Your Kill Yourself Podcast, and Entrepreneurs’ Organization to name a few. Instagram: @Laqwanda